MENTAL HEALTH

Good Mental Health

Have you ever been caught up in a situation that is really troubling you, disturbing you, driving you insane and distracting your mental well-being? And yet you hold it in with the fear of seeming so weak, vulnerable and/or soft? When you experience such a situation, you are mentally unstable. It is something that millions of people in the world are currently going through.

Feeling a surge of anxiety 

Someone may ask “what makes you mentally unstable”? According to Mental Health Organization (MHO), it argued that one might be mentally unstable due to “psychological factors that may contribute to mental illness which include severe psychological trauma suffered as a child such as emotional, physical or sexual abuse, or an important early loss such as the loss of a parent”.

Mental Health Statistics in the USA

To come out as a victim of rape, abortion, sexual abuse, drugs, domestic violence or any action that is against human rights is something many people find very shameful and embarrassing and eventually decide to keep their misery under wraps with the fear of losing dignity and reputation in the society.

A victimized woman.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), good mental health is related to mental and physical well-being. WHO’s work to improve the mental health of individuals and society at large includes the promotion of mental well-being, the prevention of mental disorders, the protection of human rights and the care of people affected by mental disorders.

An old man suffers a mental illness.

It all starts in the family and then followed by the community surrounding us. Parents and guardians are said to be the major cause for distracting the psychology of the children and sometimes even in their teenage. They put much pressure into the mentality of children on issues concerning failure, making mistakes or sometimes interfering with kids’ life in making decisions and choices for them about life partners, careers as well as how to live their lives. In this era, there are people who are being forced to marry a life partner out of their obligation only to please their parents and elders, to choose a career that they are not passionate about only to satisfy their parents, or even to walk down the aisle when they are not ready to do so only to suit family wishes.

Two doctors taking care of a girl affected by mental disorder.

If someone fails the exams, task or a deal does not necessarily mean they are losers, so label them not. If someone is a long-time bachelor or single maybe by default if they haven’t found the right partner yet, or maybe by choice does not mean they are homosexual or impotence, so call them not. This goes out to everyone out there who is very quick in pointing fingers to people without knowing exactly what those people are going through in their lives. Sometimes it obvious we can never see the pressure the other person is under or the pain they are in. Therefore, we should try to see the situation from the other person’s point of view by putting ourselves in their shoes, and from there we will learn to think differently and to be more open to other perspectives and opinions. At the end of the day, its important to always be understanding of others and to stop labelling them in ways they don’t agree with. We all live our own lives, so there is no point in trying to figure out others when we often can barely figure out our own.

Woman during a psychotherapy session.

We all have somewhere along the line of time convinced ourselves that being vulnerable is often being weak, NO. Being vulnerable is being real, being real is being true. How we feel is real and how we feel has to be balanced. It’s unrealistic to feel happiness and joy and love 24 hours a day. Even the most positive of people will be challenged in life. In those moments of darkness, we have a choice; to allow the darkness to define us and become that very darkness, that is such a small part of us, but feels so much heavier because it is something we don’t want to feel. And we grow in our pain and find our brightest light. We talk to someone, we write, we ask for help, we open up, we draw, we laugh, we keep pushing and living and getting to know ourselves through experience and knowledge and life.

Support group gathering for a meeting.

We are honest in how we feel even if it’s not a feeling we want. It’s easier said than done but it does and always can get better. Mental health is as important as the way we would look after our stomach if we got sick or how we would protect our hand with a bandage if it was cut and bleeding. Our mind is so important because what we think becomes our actions and our actions become our character.

An elderly care old and young.

Allow your heart to feel pain when you are hurt, never restrain your eyes from shedding tears when your mouth can’t explain how broken your heart is and lastly allow your thoughts to be free and have the best life. If possible, unfriend, unfamily, uncousin, unco-worker, unfollow a draining soul really quick. Blood may be thicker than water but nothing is worth stressing your soul. Let go of anyone who is not allowing you in being the best you, including parts of yourself. Clean out the closet of folks who have access to you and protect that energy. You need it! Let the negativity go and you will be okay.

Have the best life, peace of mind and enjoy life to the fullest.