LOVE & RELATIONSHIP; A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF EACH OTHER.

Love & Relationship 

Love is always an adventure when it comes to people who are truly seeking. Yes, an adventure because no one has ever travelled the road of love without crossing the streets of ups and downs. An adventure because when you are in a relationship, there might be times when you will have to cross the river without a bridge, put out the fire without an extinguisher, climb a mountain barefoot or even put on a false front when your true self can clearly be seen on your face. As men, we are only humans sometimes we make mistakes and we are not perfect, but that doesn’t seem like much of an apology for not being trustworthy to our partners.

Lovely couple eating ice cream. 

It’s obvious, a man wants to be completely unrestricted so he can honour his world with themes of growth and broaden his horizons. He does this by travelling, praising hobbies, having fun and engaging with a ton of different people though women need to understand this isn’t a sign prone to cheating. 

Lovers on a vacation

However, a man will always value his freedom, and hate the idea of being trapped and this may come across as highly suspicious so some, and it’s the worst thing which can happen as freedom is fundamental to men. This is an important area to acknowledge, as he may be unwilling to commit unless reassured, he can still have his space. A serious man wants nothing more than for you (woman) to be the best version of yourself just like he is for himself.

A man and a woman on a date. 

It’s time to stop acting childish and be more of a matured man if you’re serious in your relationship. Be more of a gentle and a grown man who text his woman, ask her how her day was, call her to hear her voice, take her out of dates, when she has a problem, you listen and figures out a way to solve her problem, you don’t argue with your woman, and you look good and smell good for her. It’s just the little things that separate a boy from a man and a grown woman loves that.

A man and a woman kissing each other

Love is like a football match in which if both players play honestly could bring happiness and love and even discipline and if it happens that one player has unfortunately hurt the opposite player, it is easy to forgive and have compassion. 

Affection is important in relationships

But also love is like a movie theatre or a stadium where each entrant has only one goal of finding entertainment and a purpose to find refreshment, happiness, peace of mind and to learn although it’s very unfortunate when people take love for granted, play with other people’s feelings and use this form of relationship to experiment with their curiosities in love and relationships, and eventually end up causing trauma, pain and regrets to people who are seriously committed to loving.

A couple embracing the beautiful moment

If sex is all you want, make it clear. If you want a relationship, make it clear. If you want somebody to talk to while your partner is acting up, make it clear. Don’t use people. Make it clear in the beginning and you won’t have problems in the end. Just be yourself the best version of a decent man you would ever wish for your partner to be if you were a woman and the same to women. Do not cheat, if you aren’t happy just leave, simple as that. If you haven’t found your soulmate yet, just wait for that special one no matter how long it’s going to take. Don’t argue the fact that you have been single long enough to be scared that someone is going to come along and mess up what you have with yourself. However, there has really never been a delay in figure out what is best for you, so you should follow your heart when it is calling on you. Don’t care about what other people will say or think. Those fingers point toward you, we all get. Don’t let them stop you from getting what you want.

A man and a woman cuddling on the bed

Other women are desperately trying so hard to be accepted and liked by men. Often, they go out of their way to be the people they are not and act like a wife when they’re still a girlfriend.  You should stop thinking that you’re going to be a man’s wife and he hasn’t asked you to marry him. You keep building yourself up with the idea so much, you start doing wifely things and comprising yourself. So many women are going around saying “he’s going to propose soon” or “we’ll be married in a year or two”, and when it doesn’t happen you become heartbroken and bitter. It’s because you believed a lie and its not his fault but yours. After all, you made him out to be something he wasn’t. Please do yourself a favour and understand you are worthy to be a wife but you are not a wife until he makes you his wife.

Lovers eyeing each other

When it comes to women forget about the body because there is so much more to women than just sex. So many people think that sex is all what matters in relationship. Well, if you are one among them note that you have the wrong perspective of what a relationship is really about and let me give you some raw truth; being with someone means that you both support each other, it means that you work through conflict fairly, it means that you try your best to fulfil each other’s sexual desires, it means that you feed each other with nutrition, with conversation and with laughter, it means that you have a partner to win with, it means that every single day is an attempt to build a spiritual connection that is deeper than money, skin, followers or petty arguments, and lastly it means that you are both picking each other every day. To be honest with you, you should never wish for an easy journey but you can only hope for a better and happy ending. Is it easy? No, but it’s worth it.

Be with a partner who makes you feel appreciated, loved and cared for

Your partner has got to be more than just a lover. They got to be your best friend, your confidant, your spiritual collaborator and your teacher. They have to help you face the things you don’t want to face alone. The person you eat with, laugh with and the person that makes you learn new things about yourself since no one has ever learned fully to know themselves.

Old proud partners who achieved success in a relationship.